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Looking after Yourself

Looking after yourself is important following family separation. Our resources and information can help you and your family.

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Looking after yourself during the challenging times of relationship breakdown and family separation is essential. We understand that navigating through these situations can be emotionally taxing, and it’s crucial to prioritise your own wellbeing and mental health. We have brought together some local resources for Hampshire and the Isle of Wight that offer guidance and support to help you focus on self-care, ensuring you emerge from this period with resilience and strength.

Why Self-Care Matters

In the midst of family changes, it’s easy to neglect your own needs. However, taking care of yourself is not a luxury but a necessity. Your wellbeing directly influences your ability to support and nurture your children. By prioritising self-care, you are better equipped to handle the challenges that come with family transitions.

Tips for Wellbeing and Mental Health:

  1. Seek Support: You are not alone. Reach out to friends, family, or local support groups. Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can provide valuable insights and emotional support.
  2. Establish a Routine: Structure can bring stability during uncertain times. Create a daily routine that includes time for self-reflection, relaxation, and activities you enjoy.
  3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily life. Whether meditation, deep breathing exercises, or a mindful walk, these techniques can help reduce stress and promote mental clarity.
  4. Prioritise Sleep: Ensure you get enough rest. Sleep plays a crucial role in emotional and mental well-being. Establish a bedtime routine that helps you unwind and relax before sleep.
  5. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Pay attention to your diet and exercise. A balanced diet and regular physical activity contribute to physical and mental health.
  6. Professional Support: Consider seeking the guidance of a mental health professional. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore feelings and develop coping strategies.
  7. Set Realistic Goals: Break down tasks into manageable steps. Setting achievable goals can give you a sense of accomplishment and control over your life.
  8. Connect with Nature: Spend time outdoors and connect with nature. Fresh air and natural surroundings have a positive impact on mental well-being.

Resources for Looking After Yourself – Health and Mental Health

Take advantage of local resources available in Hampshire and the Isle of Wight. Whether it’s community centres, counselling services, or support groups, knowing what’s accessible in your area can be an invaluable part of your support network.

Remember, looking after yourself is not selfish; supporting your family through difficult times is vital. Take small steps each day; over time, you’ll find strength and resilience in your journey towards healing and growth.

BACP – Find a Therapist

The BACP (The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) has an online Find a Therapist directory that can help you find an appropriate counsellor or psychotherapist near you who specialises in the areas of support most relevant to you. You can find a local therapist here

Solent Mind

Solent Mind ensures anyone with a mental health challenge has somewhere to turn to for advice and support. Their mental health experts can help if you feel low, worried or anxious and need to talk. Visit

Havant and East Hants Mind

Havant and East Hants Mind work to promote good mental health within our locality. They seek to support and empower people to lead a full life as part of their local community. Visit


Mind offers help through information, advice and local services whenever you need it. They bring together a network of people and communities who care about mental health to make a difference. Visit

Hampshire Parent Carer Network (HPCN)

Hampshire Parent Carer Network (HPCN) offers parents and carers of children and young people aged 0-25 with any additional needs, or disability including mental Health (diagnosed or undiagnosed), the opportunity to tell the Local Authority, Health and other services, what life is like. email or visit

Hampshire and Isle of Wight Integrated Care System (ICS)

Hampshire and Isle of Wight Integrated Care System (ICS) is a partnership of NHS and local government organisations working together to join up health and care services to improve the health and wellbeing of people in the communities they serve. Visit

The Daisy Chain Project

The Daisy Chain Project provides pro-bono legal advice to men and women experiencing or fleeing, domestic abuse. This advice is supported by their team of regulated barristers and solicitors. Visit

Resolution Family Therapists

Resolution can help you find accredited law professionals, but they can also help you find accredited family therapists. Click here and enter your postcode to find a Resolution family therapist near you.

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